What you don't see with your eyes, don't witness with your mouth.
I hate rumors. They just start unnecessary drama. Who wants that? I surely don't.
Why do people start fictitious rumors, or just say things that aren't true?
Ok, there's a reason I'm asking this. I'll get to it.
Evidently there are "Rumors" going about that I will be the first wife to cheat on my husband when deployment comes. I guess they made a bet? Supposedly this was started by the guys in my husband's old division. My husband heard about it from me, I heard about it from a friend who heard if from an friend whose husband told her and is in my husband's old division. Did I confuse you? If so, reread it... it'll catch on.
I know, and my husband know that it's not true. I guess that is all that truly matters. However, it bother's me because I pride myself in being different. I pride myself in having morals. I pride myself in knowing that I love my husband and he is the only one that I want for the rest of my life. I don't dress slutty, I don't throw myself out there, I don't flirt with other guys.. I really don't talk to other guys except for my brother or an occasional text or phone call from a guy I've known since I was 8-9 years old and is considered my brother.. AND HE'S MARRIED!
I have been avoiding blogging about it... but deployment is creeping up, and it likes to pop back in my head. It bothers me because I don't know why someone would think that of me. I don't really know why all of a sudden I care what someone thinks about me.. This is just something that really just hurt my feelings. I think it's because some of the guys that supposedly said it.. or "Bet" that I'd be the one to cheat are supposed to be my husband's friends and guys that we have hungout with together, and I considered them my friends as well.
It will not happen. I will prove all you bastards wrong. I love my husband. I love our Marriage and everything we have going for our future.
It's just that.. a petty high school rumor. For all I know, it could be nothing. Just someone starting more high school drama.
I feel better now.
Maybe it's because you are super pretty and a great person and people are just jealous? Maybe they seem to think that just because you are attractive you are a whore? I don't know but I have a whole lot of faith in you and would never think things such as this of you :)
ReplyDeleteMisery loves company. Don't let it get in your head. You know who you are, it's their loss that they don't. The truth is people start rumors like that to take attention away from themselves. Take comfort in the fact you have a good marriage. Your husband is one lucky guy and won't have to worry about what is going on at home because he knows who you are as well. Just smile and hold your head up!!!
ReplyDeleteyour right Rumors are rumors. Try not to let it bother you and just smile, prove em wrong. It's usually the ones who start rumors who have done just that and are trying to get focus off them so they start crap towards other women. I actually feel sorry for the husband of the women who started the rumor towards your marriage. As we talk of this she is prolly cheating on her very own husband. My sailor who has went thru this from his ex wife starting drama just from that, she had cheated on him and wanted the focus off her. My sailor cared enough about me and about us to inform me of the dirty things that some of the wives of sailors can do and how they can act. Hang in there girl its us strong ones that they try to break and that they get jealous of cuz we can be faithful , we can support our men, and we can stay strong. Brush your shoulders off. Laugh at there bet and next time you see them smile and ask who lost. then tell them to buy you a drink. HA!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry you're experiencing that! I hate drama that is often associated with the wives on my husband's ship and as a result, have formed very few relationships. I feel like the ship [or whatever duty group a spouse is with] is a cesspool of drama that many never grew out of.
ReplyDeleteAs deployment approaches, stay strong and know that YOU know, and your husband knows the truth. You will be in my thoughts ♥
I can almost bet that it was started by someone who is jealous over how gorgeous you are and/or are worried themselves they either they might cheat or their husband will. Jealousy and envy can make people do some crazy things. And instead of finding the root of the problem, what about themselves causes them to be so insecure, they'd rather hurt others instead. An ex friend of mine was one of the ones who "betted" against another wife as well. You know what happened? During my ex friend's first deployment last year, she moved back home to save money, ended up cheating on her husband, is now in the process of a divorce and is currently pregnant AND engaged with the guy she cheated on her husband with. It hasn't even been a year since that deployment. <3 Try not to let it bother you too much. Hold your head high because you and your husband know who you are and it'll be that love and trust that'll make the deployment breeze by fast.
ReplyDeleteOne thing I've learned about rumors is that the majority are started out of insecurity while trying to deflect their own faults onto someone else.
ReplyDeleteI think someone is just jealous of you. This time brings out the best and the worst in people.
ReplyDeleteRumors are an immature woman`s way to bring you, and every one who hears them down to her unhappy, miserable level. I had a very similar problem with a female who was a wife of a fellow sailor, who was my husbands "friend", but she went on to start rumors about my husband being possibly unfaithful now or future, not me. It got all over the section and command and soon to me and all of us were up in arms about it. It was a great to see how much support we really had a newlywed couple. Turns it was all over the fact she did not like the girl in question and she was having marital problems of her own. So my husband and I made a pact, unless each other has a issue, question, concern, we dont discuss what others may say because yes, being away from each other or even being home near each other is hard enough, but more so when you have people that have nothing better to do with their time. Stay strong and Im sure more than anything that your husband , and mine, knows where their hearts are held and where their faith is all aspects lies.
ReplyDeleteWow. That's insane. I mean we're not even BFF but just the conversations I've had with you I know that you'd never do anything like that. And to think that someone could is beyond me. I'm sorry you're going through that. That really stinks.
ReplyDeleteBUT on the bright side, your husband also knows that he's lucky enough to have a woman that has eyes only for him...that other guy [that started the rumor] probably isn't as lucky.
The best revenge is to prove them wrong.
ReplyDeleteThanks everyone. Your comments really helped.
ReplyDeleteMy husband is great. I asked him if he believed the rumors (I know he didn't, but I needed to hear it from him). He said No, that he knows I wouldn't do that to him. That I was his life.
Not going to let the petty things bother me. :)
I have to agree. Prove them wrong and show them that you're the one with the strong marriage and solid relationship. OH. And you don't act like you're in middle school either.
ReplyDeleteDon't let it bother you, one of those girls that started that rumor will probably be the ones to cheat. It happens with every unit, and every deployment. There will be wives that cheat, start rumors, and just be a major pain in the butt... but don't associate yourself with those types of people at all and you'll be ok.
ReplyDeleteI have something for you!!!
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Oh & cheer up they're just jealous cuz you're gorgeous and you're taken! :)
ReplyDeleteI don't even know you all that well and I an say that I know you would never do it. I hate girls seriously, we are so mean and petty. I'm sorry it's bothering you.
ReplyDeleteI feel better now. I'm not letting it bother me. I know it's not true, my husband knows and the girls who see me as who I really am know that I would never do such a thing.
ReplyDeleteSarah, you're right. Girls are sometimes very petty. Luckily, I have found so many that share the same values as I do.
The girl who originally said it has already messed around on her husband, and he's just too blinded to see it. She also had made the comment before that she wouldn't be able to resist herself if she ran into her ex, which she cheated on with her now husband. She starts drama to get eyes off her and the things she does. Thankfully, everyone is starting to notice this.. sadly her husband hasn't yet. My husband believes she's completely brainwashing him and is turning him against all his friends because they've figured her out.
Thank Betty! Going to check it out now.
Don't listen to what those stupid guys have to say! As long as you know that you love your husband and you would never do something like that, then that's all that matters! Keep your head up, and just keep living your life. Hope your feeling better soon! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Brittney!
ReplyDeleteI don't even think about it now. People like to start drama to help overlook their own problems. :)