Sunday, May 13, 2012

Just Because He's Deployed Doesn't Mean I'm Single

I could go on several different tangents with the title, but let's see if I can say on target with what's flowing through my head at this moment.

When your significant other is deployed, it's typical to let the negative in and let out a vent. I say go for it. However, really think about it first. You don't want to say something you might regret later or something you don't really mean.

When you're in a relationship with a service member, it cannot be about the physical relationship about 90% of the time for some of us. You must work on all things about your relationship that are not physical.

I don't like when I hear girls say, "I hate feeling Single". You shouldn't feel that way. If you focus solely on the lack of a physical relationship, you're going to slowly detach yourself. Never say you feel single. You still have a relationship to devote time and effort to. Personally, I think long distant relationships can be the BEST thing.. but only if you let it.

Focus on the more important things. Communication is key to a strong relationship- both in a Long distant relationship as well as a relationship that never separates you. In a long distant relationship, your communication may be tested, but you can build on it. Take this time to learn new things about your significant other. Start a "New" relationship with him, take this time to write silly little love notes (email, letters, carepackages). I guarantee you the distance can be beneficial.

Deployment for me and my husband helps test our communication skills, but it also helps us because we have to try harder to feel connected. Communication helps put the US in trUSst.

Just think about the positives. Take a breather and relax.


  1. Tell me this though, with my husband gone it's like I have a neon sign on my forehead that says, "Hey creepy single men, come hit on me because my husband isn't here!" Its gross.

    1. Haha, I can completely relate to that!