100 Reasons Why I love you

My Husband and I never do too much for Valentine's day. We like to keep it simple. Who wants to fight with the crowds anyway?! I sure don't and neither does he.

February 14, 2010

We slept in for the first time in a while. Lounged around and cuddled on the couch (seems to be our favorite thing to do). I gave him a list I had typed out of 100 things I love about him, went to see a movie at Cinema Cafe, He bought us some Champagne, rented us a movie for the night and cooked some awesome Fillet Minion!

It was a perfect day for us. Relaxing and enjoying time with each other.. as we do every weekend. The "100 Reasons I Love You" was just the little extra thing I threw in. He loved it. He was smiling the whole time.. caught him laughing a couple times.. and still denying tearing up when he watched "Marley and Me"... but he was laughing when he said it.. he's so "Macho" ;). I posted my list to him at the bottom if you're interested in checking it out.

We finally went and saw Dear John. I have been wanting to watch it before I read the book. I knew that if I had read the book first, I would not like the movie. The movie was good.. however, It was not great. I guess it was just the way she did John. It just Kills me when girls do that to their man in uniform.. not just girlfriends either. I have seen Fiance's and even wives pull crap like that. It breaks my heart. I did not dislike the movie buy any means.. it just got to me.. so, really, I guess that makes it a good movie. It's supposed to get to you. Now I'm excited to start the book. Nicholas Sparks is one of my favorite writers.

This morning, President's Day, Nick had off work (Yay for long weekends!).. So we continued to spend time together and focus on each other. He took me to breakfast to one of my favorite places in the world to eat, Cracker Barrel. It was definitely yummy. He then took me to Ollie's Bargain Outlet.. It was neat. We didn't really buy anything, but we just have fun looking, so who cares!  He took me for ice cream, which I love when he randomly does that. Yeah, my husband is awesome.

My Birthday is the 20th... Who knows what he has planned.. he's been talking about something, but he just likes to tease me and never even give hints.. KILLS ME! But I love him. Can't believe I'm going to be 23! ack! Anywho. Going to cut this short. It's bed time, and I have to drive to Norfolk and fight tunnel traffic in the morning. Best get my beauty sleep.

100 Reasons Why I love You

1. When you are holding my hand when I wake up in the middle of the night
2. You are goofy
3. How you always try to make me smile when I’m upset
4. The way you kiss my forehead
5. How cute you are when you are sleeping
6. When you have a bad dream, I’m your teddy bear you hold on to
7. You never give up on me
8. You hold the key to my heart
9. You know me better than anyone
10. You always make me smile
11. Your eyes
12. We think alike
13. We share a lot of the same values
14. You know friendship is key to a good marriage
15. You are my best friend
16. The way you call me baby
17. You rescued me when I didn’t know I needed rescuing
18. You are my Soul Mate
19. You still give me butterflies
20. You make me feel safe
21. How you call me when you are on watch during duty just because you want to, and don’t care if you get in trouble
22. How you can admit when you are wrong -sometimes ;)
23. The way you hold me
24. Your corny jokes
25. You chose me to spend your life with
26. Waking up next to you almost every morning
27. You are understanding
28. You are forgiving
29. How you comfort me when I’m upset
30. Your cute little texts
31. The smell of your cologne
32. How we have learned to communicate our wants, needs and emotions
33. You think I’m always beautiful, even when I look my worst
34. When you play with my hair as we’re lying in bed
35. How you don’t mind if I forget to shave my legs
36. You will build a fire in the fireplace if I’m cold
37. When you start rapping out of nowhere.. It’s funny, and cute
38. The way you worry about me when there’s nothing to worry about
39. How you hold my hand when we walk in the mall or grocery store
40. How you sometimes get scared during horror movies and pull yourself close to me
41. The way you tell me I’m your everything
42. You say you miss me when we have only been apart 8 hours
43. You kiss me every morning before you leave for work
44. How you never know where anything is and always rely on me to find it
45. Your trust
46. The way you sometime forget what you were saying in mid sentence
47. The way you love to brag about my modeling pictures
48. You got a tattoo with my initials
49. You gave me your last name
50. You love animals as much or more than I do
51. You shyness
52. You have a great family
53. You will watch chick flicks with me
54. You are going to be a great Daddy one day
55. You like spending time with me
56. You will hold my purse when I am trying on clothes in the mall
57. How you can always tell when I am upset, no matter how hard I try to hide it
58. You like my cooking
59. You rub my feet if they hurt
60. How you think I look sexy in a tank top and boy shorts
61. The way you tickle me
62. How you chose the military life on what we both wanted
63. How you look in uniform
64. How you support my tshirt designs and CRushGFX
65. How Roo-Roo is no longer my dog, she is yours
66. I have fun with you
67. You support me
68. You are open-mined
69. You never stay mad at me long
70. Your obsession with my booty
71. You said that if we can’t have kids, we will adopt
72. How “Marley & Me” made you tear up and you had to leave the room to keep from boo-hooing
73. You like to play board games and video games with me
74. How you sing in the car
75. You don’t judge me
76. How we compliment each other (ie. You’re messy & I’m a neat freak)
77. How different we are but yet so much alike
78. We both love camping
79. You love baseball
80. How you always make me special Ramen noodles
81. How you can’t stand to see me cry
82. You sometimes take me for lunch dates
83. How you encourage me
84. How we both like collecting baseball cards and have enough together to wallpaper a room
85. How when people said we wouldn’t last six months and you said we’d prove them wrong, and already have
86. I love how you are ticklish even though you say you are not
87. You taught me what true love is
88. You said that if I weighed 300lbs you would love me just as much as you do now
89. You knew what style ring I like when you picked my engagement ring
90. You make me happy
91. Your touch
92. Your laugh
93. How you say I’m your favorite person in the world
94. How you say you’re a lucky guy, and other times say “It’s not luck if it’s meant to be”
95. You say goodnight, every night
96. How you tell me “You’re in this forever”
97. You told me I’m your first real love
98. You don’t think it’s possible for people to fall out of love
99. You’re my Rockstar and I’m the Rockstar’s model
100. I could come up with more than 100 reasons why I love you

Marriage

I recently read a blog by a fellow Military Wife about people who split up in the Military. After reading and commenting on her blog, I decided I would blog and share my opinion on what I see a lot, and some personal information as well.

Now days it seems as people get into a marriage with the mentality of "Well, we can always get divorced.". This is NEVER a good mentality to go into a marriage with. It's like you don't believe in what marriage stands for. In my opinion, people with this mentality will never have a successful marriage. This goes for both Military and Civilian marriages. Marriage is not a "High School" Relationship. Marriage is the real deal. Where are your morals?

Another thing I see being an issue, especially in military marriages is couples who get married too young. Nothing against anyone who does, just want to state that some people do not realize that they are still immature or have yet to fully mature. You may think you are fully matured.. but you will look back a couple years from now and realize how much you have grown as a person. I think this is something to really think about before jumping in, Especially in a military relationship. I'm talking about the 18 and 19 year olds, fresh out of high school. Also, males mature slower than females as well. And personally I think they "Grow up" and then decline in maturity all over again before they truly "Grow up". They still want their "Freedom". My husband and I have hit a few "Hiccups" with the whole him wanting to just do whatever he wanted, he was 19 when we wed. He still wants to do his own thing, be rebellious. But at the same time, he loves me and wants to be with me. So, we work together as a team.

I have met numerous girls who married just for that, To be married.  To "Live their fairytale", to grow up, get married, and have kids. I've noticed when married life is not what they always dreamed it to be, they give up and run from their marriages. No working things out, no trying, just done. I have seen this numerous times.

Numerous couples get married just because they got pregnant. This is NEVER a good reason just to get married. I also see a lot of couples who get married and immediately want to have kids. This is stressful on a relationship, especially in a military relationship. You should always have time to you and your spouse, to adjust to married life.. and on top of that, adjust to the military life.

Since being a Navy Wife, I have seen a lot of "Tag Chasers". What is a Tag Chaser? 1) Someone who is sexually attracted to someone ONLY because they are in the military. 2) Someone who is looking to marry someone in the military. These people disgust me. They marry Military men because they want the benefits, they want money. They will prey on any man in uniform whether they have a ring on their finger or not. When they do marry, they are known to cheat and usually with another man in uniform. It's plain out sleezy. I have never seen a marriage of this sort work.

I have seen what was believed to be the "Strongest" marriages crumble. You may think your marriage is unbreakable, but anything is possible. I am married, and I use to think my marriage was strong.. and I still think it is strong, but it's not unbreakable. No marriage is unbreakable. How many people have you seen split and you were like, "Wow, I never expected that."? Most of the time, one of the persons involved.. didn't expect it either. I have seen a 25 year marriage crumble for no reason other than she is "Not happy anymore". He never saw it coming.

 No marriage is perfect. Marriage is a job. Some people just give up and quit. You don't get a "break" from marriage. It's a constant job. Yea sure, it's hard sometimes, but you are going to have days at some point that you just don't feel happy. Not necessarily unhappy with your husband, just where you don't feel happy. You might even take it out on your Spouse, and not intentionally mean put it all on them. Stress can do this as well. That is something my husband and myself are working on. When we are upset, mad or stressed, We tend to get snappy with each other. We don't mean to do it, but we both know this is how we are and always have been. People have a tendency to "take things out" on people they care about most. Communication is key to a working relationship. Without good communication, a marriage is set to fail.

I would also like to share that there is absolutely nothing wrong with going to Marriage Counseling. I know couples who go before deployments just to help relieve any stress or tension between themselves. I know a lot of men who don't want to go. They think they "Don't need it" or that they will be embarrassed. There is nothing embarrassing about wanting to make your marriage work smoothly. I think more marriages would work if people would take the steps just to ensure they are communicating and working together. Counseling will definitely be a help.

This is all I have for now. I hope someone enjoyed my rambling :)